UK basturds bullying Chinese Singapore man in his 70s

Someone showed me this video posted at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KB_GoQ-h9Zg

I hope some journalists will take it up and write about it. Anyone out there?

Rebound Relationship

Why is it that some men can jump into a new relationship quickly after breaking up with their girl-friend whom they may claim to love very much? Does age make a difference? *eyes rolling*

That's the question I asked at facebook recently, as I am quite puzzled that someone I know was 'engaged' with a new love soon after a relationship breakup few months ago. It was quite a surprise! I received some insightful answers from my male friends below:

There are mainly 2 type of guys who would jump into new relationship fast and swift.
1) The more familiar type, he flirts.
2) The lesser known, but noble. He truly loves both girls. Rather than tearing everybody down with his wishy-washy. He cuts it clean. It is least agonizing for all party.
- David


So here are my thoughts:
1) he confused love with lust. When the lusting feeling is gone, he moves on.
2) he is a predator / hunter / pursuer. He catches his prey. Consumes and then pursues fresh game.
3) prefers a relationship to being alone
4) he lied
5) he hopes it will sooth the pain and emptiness he feels.
- Richard


REBOUND" but it depends on why he broke up with her in the first place. Age usually wouldn't matters. You're asking for an answer to generalise every MEN (or women) out there in the world knowing very well that no 2 persons are the same.
- Chris


geeeh.... these are guys' answers, so must be quite correct? A check on "What is a rebound relationship?" helps me understand the "why" even more. It says:

A "rebound relationship" is one in which a person becomes overly quick to commit to a new partner after having experienced an upsetting breakup or divorce. People who have breakups and then immediatley involved themselves with someone else seem to feel the need to prove to themselves they are worthy of love and affection. They may miss the comfort and affection of a regular relationship. But whatever the reason is, it is a selfish reason, one that is based on serving the self esteem and satisfying feeling of personal worth. "Someone loves me and needs me." It can also be to affirm "I wasn't at fault in the breakup, this relationship will prove that." Most of these rebound relationships are not permanent, and they can be even more destructive than the earlier breakup.

read more....

Are you on the rebound? More advice found here...

Ah, I think to be closed up to new relationship after a breakup is a lesser evil than to have a rebound relationship, which will ends with 2 people being hurt further (especially the 'innocent' party). :P

Psalms 23 - Girl's Style

Can you recite Psalms 23 better than this cute little girl did?

1 The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.

2 He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,

3 he restores my soul.
He guides me in paths of righteousness
for his name's sake.

4 Even though I walk
through the valley of the shadow of death, ^[a]
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.

5 You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies.
You anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.

6 Surely goodness and love will follow me
all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the LORD
forever.

Irony of Man and Woman

In every strong man,
there is a little boy in him
who needs to be mothered
like a little baby needs.



In every strong woman,
there is a little girl in her
who needs to be fathered
with strong arms to hold and carry.




If both man and woman need a ‘parent’ wouldn't it be an irony?

So take turns to be that great ‘father’ and ‘mother’ to each other.
That'll make a great couple indeed.

- Bee



My Reflection

I was inspired to write the above poem after reading what a friend wrote in his blog about his female friend:

she asked, why was i not emo about her like i did with her.
i was taken back. why should i be emo about her like i did with her?
she said, it strikes her that im the kind of person, if not going emo-llistic over someone, my feelings arent that strong for the person.

so, now im the kind that has love spiraling downwards. >_<

but i only know that,
shes the one there who said hello.
shes the one there when i REALLY need someone.
shes the one there when i went through the previous 2 difficult relationships.
shes the one that, i can lay down my fists and be a kid again.
shes the one that, urging me on with her gentle words when everything looks bleak. shes the one that, had me hopelessly attracted to her warmth, sensitivity, intellects and corny jokes. shes the one, i have learned from and learned to appreciate.
shes the one, i have kept missing time and time again.
shes the one, i have.
shes the one, when we were young and she will be the one, when we are old.

good vibes, good friend, a confidant and perhaps, better more… how do i get emo? that is why shes my mistress. =]

luvphobia

Very often a man wants to be that 'little boy' and not that 'father'. But the truth is that a woman also needs to be that 'little girl' within. When one's physical and emotional 'account' keeps withdrawing without 'depositing' it will go empty one day. That's the cause of many relationships or marriages breakups.

If only they realize that both need to always play their roles at different times of their relationship, to be that 'parent', then perhaps they can 'live happily ever after'..... :)

Debate: Women's Miseries

The following thought suddenly came to my mind out of the blue today. Maybe it's b'cos I watched too many TV series lately (while taking my dinners). :P

"Behind each woman's misery is a man"

Do you agree? Why?

What is Your Stress Level?

I am extremely stressed by work and feeling I can breakdown anytime... doing five persons' job for the price of one. :(

The following article from Today's Encounter, "Less Stress", has very good advice for me. I need to take heed of those points in red font. I must learn to relax...

Less Stress

"A relaxed attitude lengthens a man's life." (Proverbs 14:30)

I remember reading about a small bridge in a rural area. Its load limit was ten tons. It served its community very well for thirty years until a twelve-ton truck tried to cross it. The added stress was beyond the bridge's capacity--it collapsed under the extra load.

We're all like that. Each of us has a limit as to how much stress we can handle before we break. It is well documented that too much stress is a killer. Thus we need to know just how much we can handle and learn to limit the load we carry.

However, even though my load limit may be "ten or fifteen tons," if I'm not flexible and able to bend with the winds of adversity and learn how to go with the flow of life's circumstances, I may collapse well below my load limit.

Furthermore, as the Bible taught three thousand years ago, we also need to learn how to have a relaxed attitude in the midst of stressful and pressured situations.
While it isn't easy, in a nutshell we need to limit the load we attempt to carry, eat right, exercise regularly, work hard but take time to relax, laugh a lot, cry when we are sad, never bottle up negative emotions but learn to express them in healthy ways. And above all, we need to learn to commit and trust our life to God every day!


"Suggested prayer:
"Dear God, please help me in the midst of my pressured and stressful life to learn how
to limit my load and, above all, trust you in every area of my life. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus' name, amen."