Are Architects the Sexiest?

I happened to surf into someone's blog and read the above debate. What do you think?

Well, I have only an architect ex-bf so can’t generalize all. I must say that this architect ex is:
- good looking
- romantic, surprised me all the time with his creative drawings & designs for me, making me laugh
- fickle minded and indecisive, in the matter of the heart, can change his heart overnight
- stubborn, in his view about designs

Yes, my ex seems to be the best man I ever knew then (a rare species)…. but guess every gal think the same way with him, and that’s the whole problem. When he can have too many choices, no one can be with him for too long. This is not to say that he flirts, but rather he is very indecisive even when he thinks he has found the best gal and promises to marry her.

A recent tv series I watched showed how a successful architect causing so many tragic endings for the girls he loved and his own very close buddies, because of his indecisiveness in the matter of the heart.

Perhaps that’s the trait of creative people? No one is perfect no matter how sexy and lovable. :(

Rebound Relationship

Why is it that some men can jump into a new relationship quickly after breaking up with their girl-friend whom they may claim to love very much? Does age make a difference? *eyes rolling*

That's the question I asked at facebook recently, as I am quite puzzled that someone I know was 'engaged' with a new love soon after a relationship breakup few months ago. It was quite a surprise! I received some insightful answers from my male friends below:

There are mainly 2 type of guys who would jump into new relationship fast and swift.
1) The more familiar type, he flirts.
2) The lesser known, but noble. He truly loves both girls. Rather than tearing everybody down with his wishy-washy. He cuts it clean. It is least agonizing for all party.
- David


So here are my thoughts:
1) he confused love with lust. When the lusting feeling is gone, he moves on.
2) he is a predator / hunter / pursuer. He catches his prey. Consumes and then pursues fresh game.
3) prefers a relationship to being alone
4) he lied
5) he hopes it will sooth the pain and emptiness he feels.
- Richard


REBOUND" but it depends on why he broke up with her in the first place. Age usually wouldn't matters. You're asking for an answer to generalise every MEN (or women) out there in the world knowing very well that no 2 persons are the same.
- Chris


geeeh.... these are guys' answers, so must be quite correct? A check on "What is a rebound relationship?" helps me understand the "why" even more. It says:

A "rebound relationship" is one in which a person becomes overly quick to commit to a new partner after having experienced an upsetting breakup or divorce. People who have breakups and then immediatley involved themselves with someone else seem to feel the need to prove to themselves they are worthy of love and affection. They may miss the comfort and affection of a regular relationship. But whatever the reason is, it is a selfish reason, one that is based on serving the self esteem and satisfying feeling of personal worth. "Someone loves me and needs me." It can also be to affirm "I wasn't at fault in the breakup, this relationship will prove that." Most of these rebound relationships are not permanent, and they can be even more destructive than the earlier breakup.

read more....

Are you on the rebound? More advice found here...

Ah, I think to be closed up to new relationship after a breakup is a lesser evil than to have a rebound relationship, which will ends with 2 people being hurt further (especially the 'innocent' party). :P

Irony of Man and Woman

In every strong man,
there is a little boy in him
who needs to be mothered
like a little baby needs.



In every strong woman,
there is a little girl in her
who needs to be fathered
with strong arms to hold and carry.




If both man and woman need a ‘parent’ wouldn't it be an irony?

So take turns to be that great ‘father’ and ‘mother’ to each other.
That'll make a great couple indeed.

- Bee



My Reflection

I was inspired to write the above poem after reading what a friend wrote in his blog about his female friend:

she asked, why was i not emo about her like i did with her.
i was taken back. why should i be emo about her like i did with her?
she said, it strikes her that im the kind of person, if not going emo-llistic over someone, my feelings arent that strong for the person.

so, now im the kind that has love spiraling downwards. >_<

but i only know that,
shes the one there who said hello.
shes the one there when i REALLY need someone.
shes the one there when i went through the previous 2 difficult relationships.
shes the one that, i can lay down my fists and be a kid again.
shes the one that, urging me on with her gentle words when everything looks bleak. shes the one that, had me hopelessly attracted to her warmth, sensitivity, intellects and corny jokes. shes the one, i have learned from and learned to appreciate.
shes the one, i have kept missing time and time again.
shes the one, i have.
shes the one, when we were young and she will be the one, when we are old.

good vibes, good friend, a confidant and perhaps, better more… how do i get emo? that is why shes my mistress. =]

luvphobia

Very often a man wants to be that 'little boy' and not that 'father'. But the truth is that a woman also needs to be that 'little girl' within. When one's physical and emotional 'account' keeps withdrawing without 'depositing' it will go empty one day. That's the cause of many relationships or marriages breakups.

If only they realize that both need to always play their roles at different times of their relationship, to be that 'parent', then perhaps they can 'live happily ever after'..... :)

How to Win in a Lost Argument

I find the article, "How to Win in a Lost Argument", from "Today's Daily Encounter" interesting....

"If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone."
- Romans 12: 18 (NIV)

Let's face it, some people can be very difficult to live with and/or get along with. Some are impossible. However, here's an interesting tip giving one way to resolve a quarrel:

According to Ludwig Bemelmans in The Best of Bits & Pieces, "A book issued by the Army years ago gave all manner of advice to noncommissioned officers. It even tells how to make men who have quarreled become friends again. The men are put to washing the same window, one outside, the other inside. Looking at each other, they soon have to laugh and all is forgotten. It
works; I have tried it. "

So the next time you have a quarrel with your spouse, try washing the windows! Admittedly, this would be easier said than done. It is extremely rare for Joy and me to argue over anything but when we do have a difference, neither one of us can rest until we get together, talk it over, apologize where we have been wrong, and put things right.

In a quarrel always aim for a "win-win" outcome.

Suggested prayer:
"Dear God, whenever I am in an argument please help me to know what to say and what not to say. When I am in the wrong, help me to be humble enough to admit it, apologize, and make things right. And if perchance, I am not in the wrong, help me to be humble enough not to rub in 'my rightness,' and gracious enough to forgive the one who has hurt me as you so freely forgive me whenever I sin and do wrong. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully in Jesus' name, amen."