Rebound Relationship

Why is it that some men can jump into a new relationship quickly after breaking up with their girl-friend whom they may claim to love very much? Does age make a difference? *eyes rolling*

That's the question I asked at facebook recently, as I am quite puzzled that someone I know was 'engaged' with a new love soon after a relationship breakup few months ago. It was quite a surprise! I received some insightful answers from my male friends below:

There are mainly 2 type of guys who would jump into new relationship fast and swift.
1) The more familiar type, he flirts.
2) The lesser known, but noble. He truly loves both girls. Rather than tearing everybody down with his wishy-washy. He cuts it clean. It is least agonizing for all party.
- David


So here are my thoughts:
1) he confused love with lust. When the lusting feeling is gone, he moves on.
2) he is a predator / hunter / pursuer. He catches his prey. Consumes and then pursues fresh game.
3) prefers a relationship to being alone
4) he lied
5) he hopes it will sooth the pain and emptiness he feels.
- Richard


REBOUND" but it depends on why he broke up with her in the first place. Age usually wouldn't matters. You're asking for an answer to generalise every MEN (or women) out there in the world knowing very well that no 2 persons are the same.
- Chris


geeeh.... these are guys' answers, so must be quite correct? A check on "What is a rebound relationship?" helps me understand the "why" even more. It says:

A "rebound relationship" is one in which a person becomes overly quick to commit to a new partner after having experienced an upsetting breakup or divorce. People who have breakups and then immediatley involved themselves with someone else seem to feel the need to prove to themselves they are worthy of love and affection. They may miss the comfort and affection of a regular relationship. But whatever the reason is, it is a selfish reason, one that is based on serving the self esteem and satisfying feeling of personal worth. "Someone loves me and needs me." It can also be to affirm "I wasn't at fault in the breakup, this relationship will prove that." Most of these rebound relationships are not permanent, and they can be even more destructive than the earlier breakup.

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Ah, I think to be closed up to new relationship after a breakup is a lesser evil than to have a rebound relationship, which will ends with 2 people being hurt further (especially the 'innocent' party). :P

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